Comments on: Laid Back, Shmaid Back: Online Dating and the Language Barrier

By: Moira Amado

Moira Amado — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 18:58:37 +0000

Mel — this has fed into so many of the other things I’ve been thinking about pretty much non-stop for the past few months. Thank you. So, what about this: what about the fact, that I’m _pretty_ sure that the person himself may be the _least likely_ person to be able to describe himself accurately, IN ANY SITUATION! Probably the most profound reason this whole “I’m the kind of person…” line is so annoying to me — it’s absolutely meaningless; or rather, it tells you something: that modesty and responsibility are qualities completely lost on the person. Am I ranting?

By: Moira Amado

Moira Amado — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 23:28:11 +0000

Eh, Gads. If I hear one more person begin a sentence with “I’m the kind of person who….” I’ll crawl further into my misanthropic hole than ever. When did we all become so eager to _self disclose_, anyway? Regardless of which technology one’s using, it’s just plain ol’ bad manners. This obsession with self and “individuality” has something to do with pop-psychology…..but it’s more than that too. Besides it being simply _bad manners_ (and all that implies), it’s also terribly 1) insulting and 2) useless. I don’t want you to tell me “who you are” (whatever…..), I’ll discover who you are, thank you very much. Ah, the lost art of good conversation……

By: Patty

Patty — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 19:51:38 +0000

Interesting experiment Mel. Maybe it is best not to look for love at all. Maybe it is best to relax and let love find you. : )This blog is remarkable on many levels. First, I can’t believe you experimented with on-line dating; Nonetheless, this particular blog generated so many laughs from me that your experiment was well worth it for your readers. You are a gifted writer Mel. Keep posting.

By: Karen Z

Karen Z — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 19:50:25 +0000

Wow Michelle, you sure have an amazing way to grab the readers attention. I’ve started reading sooo many articles only to say to myself, eh..I’m not that interested. I guess you could blame it on my “adhd-lmnop”, but it’s the honesty and frankness in your words that makes me want to read on and on. Quite honestly, I didn’t want it to end. I wanted it to be book size. Your descriptive words places the reader at the bar, restaurant, etc..and we’ve all been there.. and can relate. I love that you choose to leave in the risque words, ie. (lack of oxygen orgasms). Your writing reminded me a bit of Patinkin’s real life columns, (hope you take that as a compliment) but also different/better, because it’s younger and fresher. Your sense of humor is unique and I would love to read a book from you like this. Awesome Michelle per usual.

Karen

By: admin

admin — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 18:32:55 +0000

Oh, Elise, please don’t tell me I have to write my next book about online dating or love??? : )

By: Elise Selph

Elise Selph — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 18:27:54 +0000

It’s brilliant. This needs to be the preface to your next book!

By: admin

admin — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 18:24:06 +0000

Thank you!! I know it’s a long one – I was hoping I didn’t lose people along the way!! : )

By: Wanda Ferreira

Wanda Ferreira — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 17:33:50 +0000

Great Blog Mel. I love your style of writing and the connectivity you have to the reader